The stories people tell most of the time

Here’s one: “I’m too old to make a difference, take a leap, change the game…” (Sometimes, I hear this from people who are 27 years old).

This is a seductive story, because it lets us off the hook. Obviously, the thinking goes, the deck (whichever deck you want to pick) is stacked against me, so no need to even imagine the failure that effort will bring. Better to just move along and lower my expectations.

Regret seems to peak at 50, and then, as people start rationalizing that they’re not expected to make much of a difference going forward, life satisfaction starts to increase. Of course, this is doubly backwards… we can (and must) contribute as we get older, and freedom is nothing to fear.



Leap !

Why make excuses when you can start your dreams? 

Why do nothing when you can begin something?… 

Look within , you will come to know that  you have a lot more power within you than you’re revealing to the world. We ALL do. 

But because of the distractions and interruptions and responsibility and excuses we sell to ourselves, we coast along–at the same level–for the best years of our lives. 

Only a few have the guts to make A LEAP… 

…a leap into new habits, new routines and a whole new story about their place in the world–and their service to it.


Every challenge revolves around these questions

This is a drain of thoughts following my efforts to get gainfully employed in Uncle Sam’s country (of opportunity)

WHO are you trying to reach? (If the answer is ‘everyone’, start over.)

HOW will they become aware of what you have to offer?

WHAT story are you telling/living/spreading?

DOES that story resonate with the worldview these people already have? (What do they believe? What do they want?)

WHERE is the fear that prevents action?

WHEN do you expect people to take action? If the answer is ‘now’, what keeps people from saying, ‘later’? It’s safer that way.

WHY? What will these people tell their friends?


People play

When people get bored they play games. Some people watch games and get bored.
Why does this happen ? Because people are wary of doing something new most of the time.
As they get bored of doing the same thing over and over they get bored. They even get bored of games!

People power is the greatest, as some social scientist will postulate. But according to me the hunger for power leads to a counter effect sooner or later. That explains all the revolutions till date.
Hunger a more of a physical attribute is often attached to tangible desires. But how would one describe the need to overpower, gloat in the feeling of superiority? The single most affection to have a upper hand, always.

When a person aspires for a position in his profession we call him ambitious. But the same person turns into a autocratic fanatic once he reaches a milestone. Then he gradually starts loving it so much that he suffers acute pangs of insecurity.

What if …..?

The other, whiter, side of this is a creater.who loses interest soon after the creation.( perhaps bored?).
The creater never looks back. He need not. So one should keep on creating something new, bold , life changing. Let us lift this world a notch higher from Mediocrity to Meritocracy . Work as you wish. Alone or take people along. The world is not going to wait for you. It has its own rate of rotation and revolves in its orbit. It is up to you to put your mark when each side faces you.


Look less,understand more

The world is changing. The education systems and business systems are changing around the world. People are learning to coexist, collaborate, converging for a common cause or face a threat and very quickly going back to their positions of comfort.

In such a dynamic scenario, people who can constantly create have longer curve in their PLC (Professional Life Cycle) than those who stick to their posts.

Not long ago, while consulting a MSME of Gujarat asked “Can you suggest how I can find people who will readily fit into my business?”  When I asked what about his present lot he sounded very diffident about them.

It’s unreasonable to expect extraordinary work from someone who isn’t trusted to create it.

It’s unreasonable to find someone truly talented to switch to your organization when your organization is optimized to hire and keep people who are mediocre and merely want the next job.

It’s unreasonable to expect that you’ll develop amazing people when you don’t give them room to change, grow and fail.

Our entire system is set up around the word “deliverance” People who can reliably keep their promises, who deliver. “Quite likely,” are two comforting words for anybody.

Aiming too high is just as fearful a tactic as aiming too low. Before you promise to change the world, it makes sense to do the hard work of changing your own company.

One of the B2B Company whom I had consulted did a marketing audit and found that a third of their business came from repeat clients, another third from referrals, and the last third from all of his other marketing efforts.

So what is the solution?

We all need to look for opportunities to put that ‘y’ in front of ‘our’. The people you are hoping will become your customers are tired of being asked to speak with you, meet you, just to tell how happy they are doing business with you. What they desperately want is for you to look at them first.

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